Why blame?

The idea about blaming can be rooted down to the time of Adam and Eve. Adam told God as narrated in Gen 3:12 that Eve was the cause of his disobedience. Oh! Eve, why did you do this to Adam? If you had been contented, we wouldn’t have had our own present predicament. It was through your failure that we are suffering now. We suffer for food, shelter, wisdom, knowledge. The competitive nature of life has ended the weaklings in a mess. The winners of life’s competition are enjoying while the losers are suffering. Why are we in the suffering end? The rich are getting richer and the people are getting poorer.

These are everyday questions that rolls in our mind especially when that salary has not been paid, when that visa could not be gotten, when it is the third or fourth time we are writing that exam. But why do we keep on blaming. Who do we blame for our own problem? Who is the cause of our problem? Can’t we focus only on moving forward? If we lose a job, can’t we focus on getting a better one? If we make a loss in business, can’t we re-strategize and correct our errors?

Before man was made, God gave him ingenuity. Man has the power to correct errors. He could optimize. And also, he could manage his situation. But we live in a world of blame. People blame others for the cause of their problem. They fail to correct the situation. They use phrases like “if no be say”, “had I known”, “na him cause am”. But they fail to use phrases like "wetin we go do?”, “how can we help?”. As for me I will prefer to hear “dis na my suggestion”, “I don dey do am”, “e no hard me do”. When we blame, an unknown author says that we start seeing the difficult part in every opportunity that comes by but when we don’t we look for the opportunity in every difficult situation. And when we see this opportunity, we shouldn’t fail to act quickly. We should seize the opportunity.

Don’t be surprised, man still trace the cause of their present sorrows to Eve. But what if Adam did not follow her footsteps? If I were to blame, I would blame nobody but Adam. But I am not a blamer. I have always trained myself not to be one. I have always try to rise when I fall. To speak when I am dumb. To laugh when I cry. To live when I die. I become hopeful. I begin to look for every possible solution and I fail not to lose hope.

That things are not going well should not make us put the blame on others. That we are poor does not mean we cannot become rich. Those who are rich were once poor and those who are poor were once rich. That is the mystery of life. The words of TD Jakes says “let it go”.

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to…

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains...

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. 

Then let’s stop blaming. Let us see every difficult opportunity as a test.

Now my world. Things are going wrong. Everything in a mess. Meaning people have failed to do what they are supposed to do. The fact that the fall of oil is affecting us gets everyone stained. It means we have faulted in our own little way. The reason for our present sorrows is that the police has failed to protect, the soldier is afraid to fight, the priest is lazy to pray, the student has failed to learn, the farmer failed to farm, and the country saw no need for diversification. We already know this. What hope do we have in a world of blame?

Why do we start blaming the government as if we have governed well? Why do we start blaming our parent as if we have parented well? Why do we start blaming the society as if we are not part of it?

If we’ve got an answer to the present questions, it means we are beginning to see the cause of our problems. Then if we take urgent steps to solve this problem then we shall be seeing some improvement in our world. A solution means the student is learning, the scientist is discovering, the priest is praying, and everybody is doing his or her assignment effectively without complain and blaming others.

A ghetto musician African China sang “Mr. Governor govern us well, Mr. Senator senate us well, Mr. Police police well well…”

Not having blame saves time for solutions. It is better to study the problem than to blame. When we study problems, we proffer solutions. Let’s blame ourselves neither because no one is error-free.

Why do we blame when there is no light?

Why do we blame when people die?

Why do we blame when there is no love?

Why do we blame our enemies?

A blameless world would be best, why blame then?

Aguri M. C.